Pleasure Mapping 101
Pleasure Mapping & Internal Vaginal Exploration: A Gentle Guide to Discovering What You Like
Pleasure mapping is a beautiful and empowering way to build a deeper, more loving connection with your body. For many of us, expressing what feels good can be difficult—not because we’re broken or disconnected, but simply because we’ve never been given the space, time, or encouragement to explore our bodies without shame or pressure. This practice is an invitation to slow down, get curious, and lovingly listen to your own unique sensations.
External pleasure mapping begins with gentle, mindful touch on areas like your neck, chest, belly, inner thighs, and external genitals. Its only goal is noticing what brings you comfort, excitement, warmth, or ease. As you tune in, you start to understand the language of your body, one subtle sensation at a time.
Internal pleasure mapping, also known as vaginal or yoni mapping, takes that exploration inward. Using a combination of a mapping tool, breath, presence, and intention, you can begin to explore the internal landscape of your vagina with care and curiosity. This might mean noticing different textures, areas of tension, zones of pleasure, pain, or even places that feel numb or hold emotion. Every part of your body has a story to tell.
This journey isn’t just about discovering what feels good, though that’s certainly part of it. It’s also about healing, reclaiming agency, and deepening your awareness of your own body. It can be tender. It can be emotional. And it usually is deeply transformative.
What Is Internal Pleasure Mapping (aka Vaginal Mapping)?
Vaginal mapping is a gentle, mindful practice of profound self-discovery. It invites you to explore the inner landscape of your vaginal canal and notice the unique ways your body responds to touch. It’s not just a physical technique. It’s a way to build deeper awareness of your body, reconnect with yourself, and nurture a sense of safety, pleasure, and presence.
By bringing curiosity and care to your internal sensations, you can start to understand what kinds of touch feel good, which areas feel numb or tense, and where discomfort may be held. This practice can help you reconnect with your pelvic floor, release stored tension, and gently rediscover pleasure—especially if you've experienced trauma or disconnection in the past.
The goal is not self-pleausure. It’s about:
Exploring what kind of touch feels good inside your body
Finding areas that hold tension, pain, or numbness so you can begin to release them
Noticing how pressure, direction, rhythm, and location affect your experience
Deepening your connection to your body and its sensations
Letting go of emotional or physical tension stored internally
Reclaiming your sense of agency, trust, and pleasure
Vaginal mapping can be a deeply empowering experience—one that supports healing, self-awareness, and a more connected relationship with your own body.
Before You Begin: Setting the Scene
Like with external pleasure mapping, internal mapping requires presence and intention. You don’t need to be aroused to start, and orgasm is not the goal here.
You will need:
A pleasure wand or curved internal toy (made of harder material glass, stone or stainless steel are ideal)
Lubricant (ideally pussy friendly, ph balanced water-based )
A mirror (optional, but helpful for external observation)
Notebook or journal
A comfy space with privacy, soft lighting, soft textures and maybe music
A sense of openness and curiosity
Ground yourself:
Set aside 30–45 minutes where you won’t be disturbed
Breathe, stretch, or meditate for a few minutes to get grounded
Use the mirror to observe your vulva, name each structure, and notice what thoughts arise
While arousal isn’t necessary, we recommend gently exploring and touching your vulva—including the inner and outer labia and clitoris—for a few minutes beforehand. This helps increase blood flow, which can make the insertion of the wand and the mapping process more comfortable and responsive.
Apply lube generously and start with external pleasure mapping to awaken your body and get centered in sensation
Step-by-Step Guide to Internal Pleasure Mapping
Prepare Your Mind and Body
Before anything else, take a moment to settle.
Close your eyes and take a few deep, grounding breaths. Let your body arrive fully in the moment.
Ask yourself gently: How am I feeling right now—physically, emotionally, energetically?
Release any pressure to feel a certain way or achieve a specific outcome. This is exploration, not expectation.
Make sure your space feels safe and supportive—light a candle, yummy incense, play music, bring softness.
Wash your hands and ensure your wand or tool is clean and body-safe.
Begin Insertion Gently and Mindfully
Apply a generous amount of your favorite lube to both the wand and your vaginal opening. Lubrication supports ease and comfort.
Instead of inserting the wand right away, begin by simply resting the wand at the vaginal entrance. Breathe. Notice any sensations—pressure, resistance, openness.
When you feel ready, begin inserting the inner end of the wand very slowly. Think of it as an offering, not a task.
Pause frequently. Breathe deeply. Use more lube if needed. Stay connected to your breath and body. There’s no rush.
Tune in to how your body responds. You may feel sensation, resistance, emotion, or nothing at all. Everything is welcome.
Explore
Imagine your vaginal canal as a clock:
12 o’clock points toward your belly (G-spot area)
6 o’clock points toward the perineum
3 and 9 o’clock are the sidewalls
Gently press into different “times” on the clock. Use slow, intentional movements:
Soft pressure
Stillness
Gentle circles or sweeping strokes
Try various depths to see what shifts
Ask yourself as you explore:
Does this feel pleasurable? Numb? Neutral? Tender?
What emotions, memories, or thoughts arise—if any?
Where does my body want to linger, or ask for softness?
Name and Notice What You Feel
Bringing language to sensation helps you integrate the experience.
Internally or aloud, name the sensations: “warm,” “sharp,” “pulsing,” “tingly,” “dull,” “open,” “buzzing,” “sad,” “soft,” “tight”
If you find a spot that feels especially good, give yourself permission to stay there. Enjoy.
If you find tension, resistance, or emotion, pause. Breathe. Let it be. Crying, numbness, irritation—these are valid responses. Nothing needs to be “fixed.”
Offer yourself compassion. You are doing something deeply brave.
Map With Intention and Curiosity
Your body holds wisdom. Documenting what you find helps build a relationship with that wisdom.
You may choose to draw a visual map, journal, or voice-note reflections afterward.
Your notes could look like:
“3 o’clock feels tight and tense today”
“12 o’clock feels sensitive and warm with gentle pressure”
“9 o’clock brought up sadness and memories—I paused to breathe”
Over time, you may notice shifts.
Close with Care and Gratitude
When you feel complete:
Gently remove the wand and hold your body with tenderness.
Thank your body for showing up, exactly as it did.
Take a few final deep breaths, stretch, or rest in stillness.
Journal or simply rest your hand on your heart or pelvis.
There is nothing to fix. There is only more to learn, with love.
A Few Tips
Go slowly — sometimes it takes multiple sessions to really feel connected.
You don’t need to be “turned on” to start. Sensation will deepen as you relax.
Repeat regularly — what feels numb today might change in a week.
If you experience emotional release, pause and support yourself with self-touch, deep breathing, or journaling.
Internal pleasure mapping is a personal, intimate act of self-awareness — and it can be deeply healing. It’s about reconnecting to sensation, understanding what your body likes, and giving yourself permission to explore pleasure on your own terms. You don’t have to “know what you like” before you begin. That’s exactly what this practice is for. Take your time and be gentle with yourself.
How to Choose a Wand for Vaginal Mapping
Choosing the right wand for your internal exploration can make a big difference in how supported, safe, and connected you feel during your yoni mapping journey. Each body is unique, and your needs may shift depending on where you are in your healing or pleasure journey.
Here are some things to consider when selecting a wand:
1. Start Where You Are: Tension, Trauma, or Sensitivity
If you’re working with pelvic tension, vaginal tightness, pain, or past trauma, it’s important to start gently. Choose a wand that’s:
Slim and non-intimidating
Tapered, so you can ease into insertion and gradually explore deeper
Smooth and body-safe, ideally made of medical-grade glass or stainless steel for hygiene and ease of cleaning
Recommended Wand:
The Onna Curve — This wand has a thinner tip that gradually widens, allowing you to go at your own pace. Its gentle curve is perfect for reaching different angles of the vaginal canal without strain. Ideal for those just beginning internal exploration or needing extra care around tension and tightness.
2. For Deeper Mapping: A-Spot, Cervix, and Beyond
As you become more comfortable—or if you're already familiar with internal touch—you may wish to explore deeper zones such as the A-spot (located on the anterior vaginal wall, near the cervix) and the cervix itself.
These areas often require:
Longer wands that can comfortably reach the deeper parts of your vaginal canal
A design that allows for angled, intentional pressure without strain on your wrist
A feeling of firmness and control, especially for slow, intentional mapping
Recommended Wands:
Onna Cervix Bliss Wand — Designed for those ready to explore the deep inner sanctuary of the cervix. Its length and curve make it ideal for soft, sustained contact with the cervix and surrounding tissues.
Onna Awaken Wand — This wand is perfect for A-spot and cervical mapping, offering depth, reach, and a shape that encourages opening, release, and deeper sensation.
3. For Targeted G-Spot Stimulation
If you’re focusing on the G-spot, you’ll want a wand that can apply precise, consistent pressure in an upward motion along the anterior wall of the vagina. The G-spot often responds to firm, intentional touch with moments of warmth, fullness, or pleasure.
Recommended Wands:
Onna Allure Pearl Wand – This wand features a bulbous, rounded end that’s perfect for targeted G-spot stimulation. Its weight and shape allow you to anchor into sensation, making it easier to identify and stay with the G-spot during exploration.
Enjoy x
